Narrator: Now listen to part of a lecture in a psychology class.
Professor: Now, before we get into some of the research in this area, let me tell you about something that just happened to me.
That euh, that's a good example of this.
The other night, I was invited to a dinner party at a friend's house.
Now you should know that this friend, Mary, she's a really great cook.
And I was really looking forward to this dinner.
So, that night, everything was going great until she served the main dish.
I could tell from the smell that she'd used a certain spice that I really dislike.
It's garlic. I can't stand even the smell of it.
And it was clear that this dish had a lot of garlic in it.
Now of course, I didn't want to offend my friend.
I didn't want her to know I didn't like the food.
So I tried to behave normally and eat as much as I could.
But I was sure she could tell I wasn't enjoying it.
Well later, I was walking home with another friend, Mike, he'd also been at the dinner.
I started telling him how worried I was that I had offended Mary.
I told him, you know, about how I really hated garlic, and how I was sure that Mary had noticed that I didn't like the meal, that I was sure I had insulted our host.
Well, he was really surprised. He hadn't noticed that at all.
In fact, he thought I seem to be enjoying the meal.
That made me feel a little better.
But anyway, the next day I called Mary to thank her for inviting me to the dinner.
She was really pleased and talked about how nice the party was and how glad she was that everyone had liked the food so much.
There was pretty clear from our conversation that she hadn't noticed anything.
I guess my feelings hadn't been as obvious to Mary or to Mike as I thought they were.